Leadership: The Capability Sets

In this blog, I shall look at the skills that make up effective leadership. The capability sets of leadership My model began life in the business world. If you find the tasks a bit ‘business-y’ on first appearance, please bear with me. I have subsequently found that they actually ...

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NLP: Learn The Essentials in 5 Minutes

NLP was born in the University of California, Santa Cruz (UCSC) in the early 1970s. It was started informally by a group of students and teachers as a way to study excellence and interests that fell outside of any of the academic faculties. This created a culture of creativity ...

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Coaching and Happiness – Can You Coach People Happy?

Often clients come to a coaching session with quite simple, technical ‘presenting’ issues. They want to be more effective managers, to influence senior people or to delegate more effectively. But the thing underlying all of these desires is often much simpler – happiness. “If you solved this problem, how ...

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How to Coach Emotions in Business

One area that seems frowned upon in business is the idea of emotion. Business is generally conducted in a rational and steady way, and people who are ‘too emotional’ are often considered unprofessional or worse. However, it is also well known that when people repress their feelings totally, this ...

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What Are Values in NLP and Why Are They Important?

NLP started out back in the 1970s with a technological approach to therapy (analysing the linguistic structure of unhelpful beliefs). I like to think it has retained some of that early rigour and clarity, but in other ways it has softened and become more humanistic. One of the key ...

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Becoming a Leader: From Specialist to Generalist

Many people come to a point in their career where they realize that continuing to practice the specialist skill they have mastered has become an impediment to fulfilling their ambitions in becoming leaders. We are brought up with a belief that the way to succeed at work is to ...

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How to Get Over Anxiety Using NLP Techniques

We live, we are told, in an anxious world. We’re anxious about our jobs, our families, our futures. This has been exacerbated by the current economic and global climate. So how can we ease our anxiety, and how can NLP help with this? I explore these questions, in this ...

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What Are NLP Presuppositions and How Can You Use Them?

The presuppositions emerge over and over again in NLP, and can be particularly useful for people who are looking to review and revise their thinking patterns. ‘Presuppositions’ is probably not the best word for them (but is the standard NLP word used). The word implies a logical necessity: that ...

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Content and Process: The Essence of NLP Coaching

Have you ever listened in suprise as someone aggressively tells you they are kind, considerate and approachable? This is the difference between content and process – a key skill that NLP can teach you, and the essence of NLP coaching. What is content and process? Oftentimes the story that ...

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How Can NLP Help in the Caring Professions?

Recently, the caring professions have been in the public eye, and the public’s mind. Helping people whose job it is to help others is more important now than ever before. With this in mind, I’ll be giving suggestions this week on how NLP can be used by caring professionals, ...

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Guest Blog: Magical NLP by Rachel Brushfield

NLP is magical! Training in neuro linguistic programming (NLP) over twenty years ago is one of the best decisions I have made in my 30-year career. I did 3 courses over a two-year period, NLP practitioner, NLP masters and NLP coaching.  What NLP has offered me Not only did ...

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10 Reasons Why Mindfulness is Useful

Mindfulness reportedly has huge benefits to your health, happiness, wellbeing, energy and effectiveness. Why then doesn’t everyone simply do it?  I believe the reason is that while you are learning how to master it, you need to also learn why you are doing it. Otherwise, it can simply become an unpleasant ...

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How to Make A Decision Under Pressure

In my coaching experience, one thing that particularly concerns some people is having to make a decision under pressure. Especially when someone is pushing them to say ‘yes’ and to do so right now! It often feels easiest to give in. Doing so is, of course, a decision in itself, ...

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5 Books for Personal Development During the Lockdown

To celebrate the fact that all of Robbie’s books are now available directly from the NLP School website, this week’s post takes a look at a few other brilliant personal development books, and how they can help you during the lockdown. To find out more about Robbie’s books, click ...

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How NLP Can Help You with Procrastination

 “For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”― Thich Nhat Hanh As the lockdown continues, many of us are trying to use the time to achieve certain goals. Whether it be writing, meditating or exercising more, there are goals, big ...

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NLP School in Lockdown: Our Recommendations

As our global collective gets used to the temporary new normal, we’re finding new ways to spend our time. Nights out have turned into Zoom Karaoke sessions. Going to the bookshop has been replaced with shopping your own home library (who doesn’t have shelves of books that they’ve never ...

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How to Be Happier Using NLP Techniques

Happiness has been a topic of discussion since the early philosophers. As a practice and a state, it is just as relevant in the present day. As the COVID-19 lockdown begins to affect people’s mood, many are starting to search for new ways of coping with uncertainty, bringing balance to ...

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When Is Fear Good For You?

I’m familiar with fear. We’ve been together for a while now.  Growing up, I was an anxious child. Quite literally afraid of the shadows (in post-Soviet Georgia, where I grew up, there were a lot of power cuts. Every time the power went out, and the shadows appeared, apparently ...

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Leading Yourself Through Uncertainty

There is a saying: ‘charity begins at home’. Perhaps during these challenging times, we can change this to: ‘leadership begins at home’. In this blog I want to offer some ideas of how a leadership model can provide comfort and clarity in times of profound uncertainty and change. The ...

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Guest Post: Janet Woodjetts

Two years ago I was invited to contribute to the book Inspirational, Fabulous and Over 40. Along with 11 incredibly courageous and inspirational women, I crafted my piece and concluded my chapter (“With Love, Fun and Gratitude”) with advice to ‘my younger self’. I reflected that my R & ...

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School’s Out: How to Teach Your Kids from Home

Juggling education and employment can be really difficult. Let alone someone else’s education, and your own employment. In the past few weeks, many parents have found themselves having to teach their children from home. All while holding down a full-time job remotely.  So for those of you who are ...

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5 Key Lessons from Stoicism

The lessons of Stoicism first resonated with me when I read Meditations. I was looking for direction in my life, and found it in Marcus Aurelius’ timeless text. Looking around today, I see a landscape similar to how I felt back then. So I wanted to write this blog, ...

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Empathy: A Key to the COVID-19 Crisis

In times of crisis, it is difficult to hold on to empathy. When faced with death, fear or scarcity, most of us retreat inwards. We put on our own masks first, before helping others. This is true of every situation which threatens to destabilise the normal order of things. And ...

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Managing Your State During the Corona Virus

I have been thinking – with all of the deluge of information on the Corona Virus this week, is there anything worthwhile I could add from an NLP perspective? Two things came to mind, from some of the ideas from Robert Dilts that we teach at NLP University: We ...

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How to Avoid Self-Sabotage and Binary Thinking

Human beings are naturally drawn to binary thinking. It helps us make sense of the world, which is large, confusing, and ultimately unknowable. Instead, we prefer to believe that, in any given situation, something is either X or Y, with nothing in-between. Never X and Y. This is because the human ...

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3 Steps to Overcoming Frustration

Facing Frustration I remember first listening to Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now, a couple of years ago. At the time, I was feeling frustrated in every single way. I was frustrated in my corporate job, where my biggest creative outlet was choosing which shade of magenta to use on ...

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Managing Your Mind — Negative Feelings and NLP

The Negative Feeling Cycle  Do you ever find that your mind goes around in circles — thinking and rethinking certain problems, your mental state worsening, with no more clarity as to how to solve the problem? Perhaps you also feel victimised, in conflict with other people? In this blog, I will give ...

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Improve Your Confidence With NLP

Confidence is so important to us because it acts as an antidote to anxiety. Being confident means not fearing the future, the present or the past. Being confident means knowing that, no matter what, you will be able to handle it. This level of self-confidence is extremely attainable. Your capacity ...

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How to Achieve Your Goals

It’s that time of year again — when the best-laid goals of New Year’s Eve slowly start to crumble. You go to the gym five times a week in January, twice a week in February, until, eventually, you stop going altogether. The worst part is — it’s the same every single ...

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How to Improve Your Creativity

In a world of increased automation, creativity is the one thing that remains exclusively human. Machines might take over the world, but they will have to be created first. Creativity, in other words, is inherently human.  But just because something’s natural, that doesn’t make it easy. Most of us struggle ...

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The Trouble with Vision

Many people start their journey of NLP and coach training because they are at a ‘cross-roads’ in their life. They are often in a life-transition phase – dealing with big changes, or a lack of purpose – and are looking for some answers. I have found that people often ...

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What Is Your Life Plan?

Most people come to NLP looking for answers. But the biggest question we face is the question of what to do with our lives. Our answers to this are formed in childhood. When we grow up, our specific dreams tend to change, but our aspirations do not. Most of ...

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New Year’s Resolutions: An NLP School Guide

Welcome to 2020! A number for perfect vision and new beginnings. Each year, we resolve to become a little better, and take one step closer to our ideal versions of ourselves. But in our quest for perfection, the New Year can start to feel like a test. One that ...

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How to Manage Negative Feelings and Reactions

One of the things I come across as a coach (and also personally) is having strong negative feelings when someone behaves in an aggressive or angry way. In this blog, I would like to give some suggestions to help cope with, and understand, negative feelings. I will be covering ...

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NLP Coaching for Life Transition

In this blog, I will cover a theme that stays pretty constant for coaches : how to help a client during a significant period of life transition. To misquote Shakespeare (in Twelfth Night) — some are born to cope with change, some become able to cope with change and some have change ...

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Emotional Challenges and the Environment

Some subjects are difficult to examine because they are complex, others because they are emotionally charged. The environment and your place in it is both.  This is one reason that many of us don’t make the best environmental choices. The subject is complex, there are conflicting explanations of what ...

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Techniques For Inner Peace

In this blog I will share some techniques for inner peace, drawn from the ancient Greek and Roman philosophy of Stoicism and modern NLP. I will also discuss how these techniques can help us live happier and more productive lives. But first, a brief bit of background; there are ...

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How Can Stoic Principles Help You?

This week, we have a guest blog from Ed Hines, who will be teaching our upcoming Environment, Identity and Vision – Your Purpose and Planning on a Changing Planet workshop with Robbie. This week he explores stoicism – its roots, what it is, and how it can help you. ...

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How You Can Deal With Change

Change for a New Era As I begin preparation for our course with Ed Hines, one of the key themes we will be covering is: how do you provide new coaching tools to deal with some the problems that we all face today? There is concern about major issues ...

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Clarifying and Updating Your Vision

Each year at NLP University in California a general vision is set. This summer it was ‘caring for the collective’. This naturally lead to many discussions about caring for our environment, not just for future generations, but for us now. This coincided perfectly with one of the reasons Ed ...

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My Three Most Influential Business Books

I was highly focused entrepreneur until my late 30s, when the ‘call’ to change was spurred by the ideas in Steven Covey’s business book, The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People. Starting an industry placement as part of my degree in my early 20s, I joined the sales force ...

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How to Lead a Team with NLP

Team Profiling and NLP One of the important principles from NLP is the idea that people can have the same desired outcome, but the way they express it can be so different that it leads to major problems in a team. NLP has its own profiling methodology (like an ...

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How Can You Tackle Your Imposter Syndrome?

During some recent coaching sessions, I was surprised to hear a number of people in senior roles saying they had ‘Imposter Syndrome’. What is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter Syndrome a phenomenon where individuals doubt their accomplishments and progress. Instead, they feel like they are on the brink of being exposed ...

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Why Confidence is Like a Layer Cake

Confidence is something we all talk about, we all strive for, and we all look to build. But what are the “layers” we need to build confidence? Some ideas in the beginning may be obvious or may not apply to you. Go through the list and be honest with ...

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How Can NLP Help with Body Image?

This week, we have a guest blog from Kitty Underhill, our social media manager here at NLP School. When she’s not at NLP School HQ, she is a plus size model, speaker and body acceptance advocate, training to be a body acceptance coach. In this post, Kitty looks at ...

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The Importance of Purpose in Coaching

One of the parts of the Advanced Coaching training day I especially enjoy is covering a powerful, yet rapid process to help people discover their life purpose. Working as a coach, I have always found it remarkable how such a short yet powerful exercise can have such a dramatic ...

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NLP Practitioner Training – Why did I do it?

There is a saying in coaching and therapy: “The presenting problem is never the real problem.” Looking back to when I did my first NLP Practitioner training twenty years ago, I believed at that time that NLP would give me some new skills to help me manage my business ...

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Why Archetypes Are the Key to Emotional Balance

Understanding Archetypes – The Key to Success and Balance This blog will discuss how innate human energies or archetypes can give an answer to one of life’s most important questions: “What is the secret of finding emotional balance in life?” A Deeper Understanding For me, the answer to this ...

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Understanding Boundaries

People behave differently under stress – some are forceful, some withdraw and others try to distract themselves. The idea of ‘boundaries’ has become increasingly used in popular psychology as a way of addressing stressful situations but it can be simplistic, with the message being that all you need to ...

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How to Manage and Control Your State

Arguably learning to understand (and manage) your own state is one of the most helpful tools in personal development.You were in such a state, what a state you are in! What a fantastic state of mind. What is State? The OED defines state as “The particular condition that someone ...

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Guest Post: Learning and Practising NLP

This week, we have a brilliant guest blog from Judith Lowe of PPD Learning! In this blog, Judith talks about how to learn and practise NLP. Beginner’s Luck Learning NLP is easy because you already know so much. Learning NLP is challenging because it takes a lot of knowledge ...

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How Can You Avoid ‘Bad’ NLP Practice?

I try and avoid focusing on negative topics, but this week I want to discuss NLP ‘s reputation – both good and bad. A metaphor I use is one of martial arts. Founders of martial arts schools are often held in a certain reverence by their students. Sadly, some teachers ...

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7 Tips on Dealing With Your Anxiety

Anxiety is one of the most common problems in modern life – not just worrying about some particular thing, but a general sense of worry that won’t go away. What can you do if you experience it? Here are some suggestions… Acceptance Accept how you feel. Anxiety can ramp ...

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Change Your Life With the Rescripting Process

This week’s blog is about a life-changing process that I created, called Rescripting. The basic idea behind it is that successful people often have the following belief: “You can be happy and a loser, or you can be successful and stressed; you can’t have happiness and success.” The idea ...

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How NLP Can Help With Coaching

In a previous blog, I talked about what coaching is and how, at a general level, it works. Now I want to be more specific, and look at the relationship between coaching and NLP, an area I have worked in for many years. I believe very strongly that both ...

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A Guide to Coaching

What is coaching? Coaching is a way of helping people deal with issues that are concerning them. It is also a way of developing people’s skills and abilities, and of boosting performance. It is done in a spirit of curiously and non-judgement and creates a safe supportive environment, where ...

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How NLP Can Improve Your Confidence: Part Two

In the first part of this post, I talked about the ‘lower’ end of the NLP LogicalLevels, the light that this concept throws on the question of confidence, and how NLP can help. Now I want to move ‘up’ the levels, to more abstract ones. Remember that the three ...

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How NLP Can Improve Your Confidence: Part One

In the next two blogs, I’d like to go back to my roots in NLP and look at the subject of confidence through one of the most powerful conceptual tools in the NLP armoury – the Logical Levels. These were created by Robert Dilts, as a way of checking where coaching ...

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Mindfulness and Confidence

At first glance, mindfulness and confidence seem to be very different states. Mindfulness is thoughtful, measured and inward-looking, while confidence is breezy, spontaneous and outgoing. How can the former assist the latter? Removing Barriers to confidence One way mindfulness helps is by removing our barriers to confidence. Lack of confidence is ...

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Examples of NLP in Practice

NLP can be used everyday in practical situations – at work creating rapport with clients, in personal development by creating healthy relationships, in sales by getting a better understanding of customers issues and showing confidence. There are so many areas of life that can benefit with NLP, So I ...

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NLP Techniques: What Is the Meta Model?

In this article, we explain the Meta Model within the context of NLP techniques. NLP has been described as the study of the structure of subjective experience. What does this mean? One of the central presuppositions of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)  is that ‘the map is not the territory’. The ...

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What Is NLP?

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is a set of tools for personal development, based on a study of how we access, store and express ‘information’. Much of the accessing is done via ‘filters’ that can distort reality, and the same is true for storage: what lessons do we learn and ...

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NLP Modelling Steps and Techniques Explained

Our Master Practitioner course begins on 1st March. Judith Lowe will be teaching part of the module on modelling, and will also run two optional one day modelling workshops, which will be free for attendees. This will be a great chance to work in small groups with one of ...

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How to Keep Promises to Yourself

New Year is traditionally a time for resolutions. It is also traditional that these don’t last very long. But we shouldn’t short-change ourselves like this. If you made a lunch date with someone, would you show up? Of course. Yet when we make commitments to ourselves, we are often ...

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The (Logical) Levels of Learning

Students of NLP will be familiar with Robert Dilts’ ‘Logical Levels’ (also known as the Neurological Levels). I have found this incredibly useful in all sorts of ways – it’s one of those concepts that seems to shed light on almost everything. For those of you who are unfamiliar ...

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What is NLPU?

What is NLPU? To trace its roots fully, one has to go back to the early days of NLP, when NLPU’s founder, Robert Dilts, was a student at Santa Cruz. He attended John Grinder’s lectures on linguistics – which turned into lectures on the Meta-model – and was hooked.

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What is NLPU Certified Master Practitioner Training?

What is Master Practitioner Training? One of the distinguishing features of Master Practitioner is its focus on turning the principles of famous psychology books into NLP Processes. For example the NLP processes: Robert Dilt’s – Hero’s Journey (*1) Judith Delozier’s – Tracking Transitions Are based on: Joseph Campbell’s “Hero with ...

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Changing Limiting Beliefs and Responses

The Psychologist Paul Ekman (who is best known for his work on facial expressions, a topic I shall blog on more in the future) makes the important distinction between our natural emotional responses (happiness, sadness, anger, disgust etc.)  and when our reaction seems as if it has ‘triggered’ something ...

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Can You Learn Wealth, Health and Happiness?

I recently read some research about what constitutes success and happiness. The results were a surprise. The Grant Study, a ‘longitudinal’ study (following people over a long period of their lives) carried out at Harvard Medical School, concluded that ‘warmth of relationships throughout life’ is the most powerful force ...

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How to Use Mindfulness to Overcome Negative Thinking

Clients often express negative thinking, which they imagine to be objectively true, but which are actually not true at all. A classic example is “I could never do that.” As coaches we learn to challenge these, for example by asking, “What would actually happen if you did?” These sorts ...

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Your Guide to Coaching Mindfulness

Three good robust questions about Mindfulness leap to mind. First, what is it? Second, what can it do for me? And third, is it a fad that will soon pass? Taking these one a time… What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is simply living in the ‘now’, being aware of your ...

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Using Perceptual Positions for NLP Coaching

An NLP concept I use a lot is that of Perceptual Positions – also known as ‘Different Perspectives’.  The three most commonly used are: First Perceptual Position is the one we habitually use, seeing things from our own perspective. Second Perceptual Position is when we take another persons’ perspective. ...

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Bringing Together NLP and TA to Coach Trauma

Having just finished teaching an NLPU Master Practitioner in Malaysia, I continue to be astonished at the amazing transformational power of Robert Dilts’ Re-imprinting Process for trauma, and how closely it can relate to the Drama Triangle. I use the combination of NLP and TA when I find that ...

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Coaching Decisions and the Fear of the Unknown

When coaching, I am always surprised by clients’ beliefs about the unknown. People often obsess about, and make huge efforts to avoid extremely unlikely outcomes. Yet their own past experience tells them that if something has created chaos in their lives, it has not been some huge threat they ...

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