More about Stephen Gilligan’s coaching course

I wanted to combine the idea of ego states (Parent, Adult and Child) from Transactional Analysis into my practitioner course, but was concerned that it wasn’t NLP – the idea of ‘parts’ and that ‘NLP is a model not a theory’ seemed to contradict these more concrete concepts. We ...

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Stephen Gilligan – An Archetype Master

There are twelve archetypes in her model, based on the work of Jung: Innocent Orphan Warrior Caregiver Seeker Destroyer Lover Creator Ruler Magician Sage Fool The idea of the model is that human development needs us to pass through all of these stages. The ultimate goal is for each ...

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Receiving Criticism

People often react badly to criticism and the reasons can be complex, according to therapist Dr Harville Hendrix. 1. The criticism might be true 2. The criticism might actually apply to person doing the criticising 3. The criticism might be a secret wish that they would like to be ...

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Choose your own metaphor

I was demonstrating a process which uses metaphor when a student asked if they could put all the positive qualities in their life into a large pearl held in their hand.  (I said ‘yes’). As the number of qualities increased, the pearl seemed to get increasingly heavy, so they asked ...

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The teacher and the taught

While teaching NLP Master Practitioner training in Malaysia – I shared an important principle from Eckhart Tolle, that ‘the teacher and the taught create the teaching.’ What I discovered was a very engaged group of students who took responsibility for their own learning and provided some very insightful questions. ...

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Holding Difficult Feelings

Preparing to teach NLP Master Practitioner in Malaysia this week, I have been practicing some of the processes on myself. One I have not used for a while is Robert Dilts’ ‘Holding difficult feelings pattern’.  This uses Virginia Satir’s question, “How do you feel about feeling that way?” – ...

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NLP in Shanghai

My expectations of a huge city with an amazing skyline and a dynamic economy with highly motivated people were met. What surprised me was their enthusiasm to learn ancient Chinese ‘spiritual practices’! A process I created maps the three archetypes of Strength, Softness and Playfulness onto the three Dan ...

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“We all create our own cage”

A few weekends ago I finished teaching my 10th year of Practitioner training and was reminded why I started NLP School.  I remember hearing the phrase on my own NLP training, “We all create our own cage.”  That thought really stuck with me, as I realised that so much of ...

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Work: are you enjoying the journey?

Although I did not come close to the extreme hours of the young trainees at these law firms, my early twenties involved some long hours and lots of adrenalin doing big deals. As time passed, I found the emotional energy I committed to ‘pushing these deals over the line’ ...

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Curiosity and courage

I’ve been dipping into one of my favourite books, ‘What Do You Say After You Say Hello” by transactional analysis founder Eric Berne. One of the concepts is pre-destination; does our childhood gullibility set up beliefs that lead to an inevitable, at best mediocre, life? The people I have ...

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The Bank of Mum and Dad

Take a look at a video clip from Shelle Rose Charvet.  Shelle is an expert in expert on influencing and persuading; and what motivates and demotivates people. How many times has your child stood on their feet, provided for their own needs and made good decisions? And how many ...

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Stephen Gilligan: London Workshop Announced

His approaches have influenced Robert Dilts to create some interesting new techniques and approaches to NLP and the course is based on their forthcoming book, Generative Coaching. Steve has a wonderful mixture of deep personal development and healing, along with a good sense of fun. One of my key takings ...

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Do you dislike selling?

Question: “I’ve bought your book and I must say it really struck a chord with me because it really explains, word-for-word, what I’m feeling right now. In Chapter 1, in “Do a deal as quickly as possible”, you talk about ‘What is the worst that could happen?’ when you ...

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Decision Making MP3

I was delighted to see that one of my books, Think like an Entrepreneur, has an iPad edition and Brilliant Decision Making has both an iPad and a Kindle edition. It inspired me to put up an MP3 on www.brilliantdecisionmaking.com to help people make decisions. It uses a congruence meditation technique I’ve been working on.  Check it  out and let ...

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Making things happen

I listened to their presentations on their business plans first.  These were big on vision but many lacked any clear steps as to how to actually make it happen. My model was a good fit, as it diagnosed which essential parts of the business process they lacked. It was ...

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Hidden Barriers to Learning

The piece looks at particularly barriers to learning at what the NLP Logical Levels model would call the Identity and Belief levels. Our feelings of identity are deep, powerful and well protected.  When training hits an “identity level” barrier, some way of preserving existing identity and merging the new capability with ...

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Letting go of a need to be liked

Completely normal, of course, but it’s interesting to look at this in the context of the NLP presupposition “Energy follows intention.” It implies that if you don’t set an intention when you‘re communicating, you may focus your energy on wanting to be liked, rather than noticing the other person. ...

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NLP, sales, and post-it notes!

Sales is a skill to influence others, not a mark of your identity. Everyone needs these skills and coincidentally the conference was sponsored by 3M, who have a famous story about the creator of post-it notes and influence. Invented by an employee called Art Fry, post-it notes were yellow ...

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Moscow!

I’ve just returned from doing my Business and NLP course in Russia, sponsored by Kamilla Nishanova and her husband Sergey. A post-Soviet reframe came out of the training. Often business people hobble their business with a need to work (and therefore refuse to delegate). I told them that Capitalism is ...

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The perfect elevator pitch?

Take a look at the clip to see Shelle’s 45 second pitch on YouTube! Shelle is pitching her new project, Weongozi, which embeds advanced psychology into technology to: Improve response rates in advertising, Solve customer problems more quickly Create great relationships. Shelle is leading an exciting international collaboration amongst ...

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Tips for Decision Making: Part One

Some people make hasty decisions and clean up the mess afterwards, while others ruminate for ages, finding any decision making hard. A middle course of reasonable reflection and then action is what I would define as a naturally good decision maker. I have found that people often excel at ...

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NLP and Sport

For those of us who won’t be wearing lycra on a podium anytime soon, the same techniques are just as useful for all sorts of challenging situations at work and at home.  These can range from preparing for difficult conversations, presentations, interviews, reviews, and much more. NLP and Sports ...

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Local News

We’re staying local this week; NLP School is featured in the rather wonderful online newspaper, the KentishTowner in its Life Tips section. Kentish Town is an area in north London, and the Kentish Towner is part of the trend towards localised media. Even with our administration offices being based here for ...

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Stephen Covey: The Seven Habits

I met Covey once at a lecture he gave and I asked him a question, “Stephen, your second habit is ‘begin with the end in mind’ – what happens when you get there?’  He stumbled in his response and later came up to me and said he found the ...

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NLP and redundancy

Although it was your work role that was made redundant, people often feel that their very identity has been significant eroded. In NLP we use many powerful processes to overcome these negative ideas to ignite a new and lasting sense of hope. If you’re looking for a new role, ...

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FISH!

I enjoyed connecting with a very enthusiastic and engaged audience in Japan. As for the amazing food afterwards, I am rarely lost for words, so here is a picture! I am delighted that this will now be an annual pilgrimage. If they paid me in raw fish I would ...

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NLP in Tokyo

Initially I was going to present a course on coaching; however the NLP Institute of Japan said that in the current climate their market wanted training around entrepreneurship. Strangely, one of the key abilities covered in my course is to sense a gap and deliver what the market wants. ...

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NLP in Russia

Not sure if we have any Russian readers, but here’s NLP School, in Cyrillic!   (No, we’re not 100% what it says, either.) Moscow is in the training calendar for our NLP Director, Robbie  Steinhouse, in what’s a bit of an international year for NLP School.

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You can be a strong boss, but care, too

The model has evolved over the last eight months and was influenced by Stephen Gilligan’s model of the Three Minds, The intellectual or cognitive mind, the body or somatic mind and the visionary or field mind. I found it helpful to break the somatic mind into two parts: physical ...

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Inner Purpose

This was a treat from an NLP perspective; what were the values, beliefs and inner representations that underlie inner purpose? Interestingly, it came from a seminal moment in the individuals’ teens, when they had an early Hero’s journey experience and faced a demon of some sort. I sensed these ...

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NLP with a Russian accent

The wonders of technology! This week I presented on-line to an Coaching and NLP conference in Moscow. It was quite a challenge to be simultaneously translated, with a split screen of myself, the translator and the audience – nonetheless it seemed to work. The question and answer session went ...

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Coaching and Leadership

Having presented my newest leadership model at the annual HR conference in London last week and coaching a top business leader yesterday, I’ve been musing over the similarities between coaching and leadership. Peter Drucker famously stated that ‘management is doing things right and leadership is doing the right things’. ...

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An entrepreneurship model

Entrepreneurship was one of my first loves, and I’ve been honing some training processes in this area. Here’s a three-point model that comes from years of modelling successful business people. 1:  Mental: That the skills and disciplines needed to lead a business and make it function are acquired and used ...

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Are you in a state?

States can encompass all of the following: your physiology, your emotions, the objects of your thought, how you present those objects to yourself, your level of awareness, your sense of congruence and alignment… States can be positive or negative.  They can be associated with different types of activity – ...

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The NLP Phobia cure

We’ve had three enquiries this week from people seeking help with phobias. The NLP Phobia Cure has become a key part of NLP coaching over the last 25 years: it is simple and it works. The traditional Freudian approach to phobias was to relate them to complex and deep ...

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A new, life affirming “script”

The idea go back to the Greeks – my own was Damocles, constantly hurrying about as if a sword would fall on me. Some have a Sisyphus script, going after a goal but somehow sabotaging it and letting the ball roll all the way down the hill. Perhaps it ...

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NLP to Make Money

We have decided to run a course on wealth. Although this seems a natural fit with my background as the founder of a property group, I have always felt uncomfortable about this area. People who tell you they will make you rich are usually sharks: rule number 1 in business ...

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Improve how you relate to others

As NLP appeals to such a wide audience, I believe I successfully framed that whatever your profession you can recontextualise the material to apply directly to you: in relating to clients, customers, family members or partners, and whatever you do for a living. What I missed saying was the following. If ...

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Brevity is the soul of wit

It reminded me of the quote from Hamlet, “Brevity is the soul of wit.” It was a timely reminder, too – on Thursday I have 80 people signed up for Module 1 of NLP Practitioner training. Robbie Steinhouse From Shakespeare’s Hamlet, 1602: LORD POLONIUS This business is well ended. My liege, ...

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Back to school

I like the “back to School” feeling in September. It seems like the right time to get things shipshape, to make changes or finally tackle nagging issues. For tools to help you on your way, our NLP course at the end of the month is perfect timing.

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Reconnect with a sense of purpose

What came to me indirectly was a reminder of why I teach NLP. Seventeen years ago I came to a point in my business career where I was overwhelmed by the volume of work and decisions I needed to make. The answer for me was to change focus away ...

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How do men and women “click”?

We’re in in the September issue of Men’s Health magazine. We thought we were contributing to an article about differences in men’s and women’s communication styles. The tone of the article is, well, slightly racier than that, which perhaps we should have envisaged! Check out the magazine in store ...

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Maintaining Energy Levels

My latest musings on NLP come from just finishing leadership development training in France; module 1 of NLP Practitioner and module 4 of NLP Master Practitioner all in the last 14 days! What this brought to mind (and body!) is how important it is to manage your energy during busy periods. I have ...

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NLP and The Apprentice

At least one of us here at NLP School is a fan of the television seriers The Apprentice, and is backing Tom to win. (he’s the tall inventor-type, with glasses).  Not only does he seem the most decent amongst the candidates, he took our Introduction to NLP course in 2009.

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NLP and Sports

A sporting theme today, as Wimbledon approaches and momentum for the Rugby World Cup gears up in New Zealand.  NLP has been part of professional sporting coaching regimes for many years.  For the rest of us, whether you’re an occasional amateur, a coach to your kids, or just aiming ...

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Presence and Presentation

Public speaking is frightening to many people but life is full of presentations, sales, interviews, and meetings. Being able to manage your state is crucial to successful presentation – and NLP is full of methods that can help you manage your state. Equally importantly, you can use these NLP Techniques to ...

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Now in Chinese…

Although my publisher, Pearson, have agreed various translation deals into Polish, Russian, Korean, etc, there is a long lead time to actual publication. Seeing a book in Chinese with my picture on it was very exciting! I wrote a preface for this book saying that I was not sure ...

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A personal development model

The model, created in my first nlp book, Think Like an Entrepreneur, was called IDEAS.  It works as follows: Map four qualities of leadership onto the each of the four knuckles of one hand and use the NLP process of anchoring to associate the state or energy of that quality ...

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NLP Presupposition 2: The map is not the territory

To avoid our brains being overloaded, we ‘filter’ the information that comes into us, ignoring some inputs and highlighting others, to create a model of reality in our minds.  This is our ‘map’, and – here’s where this NLP presupposition is most powerful – ours alone.  Other people will ...

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A taste of NLP

Comments about the trainer, Robbie Steinhouse “It’s easy to say ‘excellent’ as a cop-out, but literally the trainer was superb.  Engaging, witty, professional.” “Really good presenter – very funny, engaging, and very good communication.” Comments about the NLP taster day content “I got some great, practical ideas and exercises that ...

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Icebergs and NLP Master Practitioner training: an analogy

I’ve always liked this quote from Jim Rohn, and it seems particularly apt as NLP School gears up for our March 2011 NLP Master Practitioner training. Personally, I remember that when I became an NLP Master Practitioner, all of my NLP somehow gained greater depth. And I think we’ve all met people who, it ...

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Could you be an executive coach? Recruiter Magazine

Press pieces continue to appear after the publication of How to Coach with NLP.  Here we talk to Recruiter Magazine about coaching, and what type of person makes a good executive coach.  Curious, empathic, observant and patient, with a knowledge of business and organisations, is NLP School’s Robbie Steinhouse‘s recipe for success. ...

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How to Coach with NLP – new book from NLP School

The book’s preface is by Robert Dilts, one of the original developers of NLP, who called it “a marvellous introduction to NLP and coaching for anyone looking for tools to bring out the best in themselves and to help others do the same.” Dilts continues, “I am impressed with the ...

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Now ILM accredited

The Institute of Leadership and Management is the UK’s largest leadership and management awarding body – and gives another quality mark of assurance to our NLP training. The issue of accreditation for NLP courses is covered in the current issue of the Association of NLP’s magazine. The association plans ...

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NLP in California

The area was familiar to me as I did my NLP trainer training here a few years ago and apart from my favourite sushi restaurant turning into a hamburger joint, it all seemed similar. (I found Sushi Garden, which is even better, in a place nearby called Capitola). The Redwood trees ...

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