Niki Deighton, Founder, Think Tank Media
How has NLP helped you?
I think what I've gained most of all from NLP is its overall ethos. One of the key messages that I have taken is that that you have choices and are responsible for them. I like the presupposition 'the map is not the territory' - which has led to my becoming more objective and making a conscious effort to see other people's points of view. I have another of the presuppositions on a 'sticky' on my wall: 'If you keep on doing what you have always done, you will get what you have always got!'. I find this amazingly useful both for myself and when dealing with individuals who get stuck in some way.
Maybe these things are obvious looking back, but it was my NLP training that brought them to life and showed me how they really make a difference.
I also use some of the techniques, too, though often informally. I use my own version of the Meta Mirror to help resolve conflicts. Getting people to take another's position or to look at an issue objectively is often the key to sorting out their problem. NLP provided a brilliant way to do this.
I find the eye accessing cues and, more generally, the material about sensory acuity, very helpful when working through a conflict or interviewing people. It prompts me not to just accept at face value what people are saying and to look for clues for if there are underlying areas that need to be pursued.
I have used the Circle of Excellence with people facing exams or some other kind of big test.
What did you like specially about NLP School?
I loved the trainer's approach. He's very dedicated, but takes the 'California' out of NLP. There's no feeling of "Hallelujah, this will save you!" Instead, there's his slightly cynical humour, which appealed to me though I suppose it's not for everyone. I also liked his bringing in material from TA (Transactional Analysis), which I find particularly useful. He also makes the use of many of the NLP 'tools', as I call them, relevant, not just an academic exercise.
The courses were well structured and supported. The manual is great, and the teaching method - introduce (theory), demonstrate, try them out, then discuss -works very well.
Testimonials from past attendees working in HR, L&D and Training
"In one way or another I can use most of the material at work. It has been very helpful in my telephone mentoring, presentations, teaching, consultancy and team work. I liked the trust and companionship of the other participants and the very obvious skills of the trainer." Senior HR Consultant
"The NLP models are useful in designing training, coaching and mentoring team members, preparing for meetings and presentations, and building rapport for better relationships with stakeholders." Lead Trainer
"I can use the rep system and eye accessing cues to enable me to evaluate each individual's learning patterns, and use congruence when checking understanding. I will be able to incorporate modelling techniques within sales training. I have also found the above useful in meetings, in presentations, and in meetings with my directors." Training Manager
"It's 13.45 on a wet Wednesday in London, I have just facilitated an induction event for 35 new people, all very positive as they are new to the organisation and it gives a great feeling to see / hear and feel that buzz! One of the presenters decided to, shall we say, become less positive and I found myself very quickly acknowledging his positive intent for being this way and bringing him back up to the reasons of why he was there, which he did with a smile, change of body posture and better eye contact......It's good stuff and works very well indeed!" Training & Development Manager
"In my work I can use NLP for coaching, one to ones, personal organisation, chunking up/chunking down, communication styles, building rapport and lots more." Supplier Development Leader